- White is supposedly the hot color for cars. I still feel like getting a roll of red tape out & put red crosses on them. That’s just me ;-) #
- @MegzyTred This is something I’d go for as well. For most cars it is silver, grey or black 4 me. I am a little particular in that department in reply to MegzyTred #
- Did u know there is a whole underworld in Las Vegas – happening in the sewage channels beneath town? Shocker. http://www.beneaththeneon.com/ #
- @tawnypress You are just amazing in how much stuff you digg out every day. I don’t need an iPhone app for pets, though. Thanks for sharing! #
- How depressing: Imagine you sit in Guantanamo Bay and NOBODY wants to have you – just because you feel like blowing a few things up… #
My excuse to myself was that I had to find the perfect partner first – for dancing and for life – and then pick up my passion. I could think of maybe three women on the planet I’d like to pick up dancing with :-)
F for failure
The girls in my class decided to sign up for dance lessons in 8th grade. Of course no one asked me if I wanted to join. I dragged myself to school anyway. I was insecure and giggled at every opportunity. Better be the class clown than showing how nervous I was. The teacher didn’t think so: It was suggested to me that I’d leave the class. In plan English: I was getting kicked out.
I spent the next 20 years watching others having a great time.
E for Effort
My friend Kevin in Los Angeles eventually showed me the way – without having the slightest idea about it. He took a salsa class with a friend of his and they started to show off. They jokingly mentioned that I should try it out as well. I wanted to surprise my friends who would have never expect me to dance.
I co-created the South Africa Project with a group of friends. We promote gender equality in order to combat rape which is a big factor in the HIV/Aids pandemic in South Africa.
I have written about the cultural aspects of Gender (In)Equality and our website talks more about it. I am passionate about the subject.
I am a proponent of balanced relationships were two equally strong partners challenge each other.
Where does that stem from? What role does gender equality play in my personal life?
Gender equality is a concept that still raises the blood pressure or the heart rate of many men in our times. There are different approaches to defend the status quo:
- It’s always been like this
- Things are easier if roles are clearly divided
- Women are from Venus, Men are from Mars
- No way I let a woman tell me what to do
I could argue in a number of ways to explain my interest in the subject.
Being the slightly biased best friend
Who would you guess my favorite artist in the world would be? Wrong!
The man whose music I enjoy the most is named Ivan Lins. He has been on top of my list for quite a while now even though there are many very strong contenders.
Ivan Lins said that he watched a lot of Disney as a child and that is still reflected in how playful his music is. He sings mostly in Portuguese which I don’t understand.
Some of my family members roll their eyes when they hear him singing things like “Na na na na…na na na na…na na na”. He just plays with his voice in a way that shows a ton of artistry.
I can mainly think of two ways to throw life away:
- Consciously, by taking action and leave the planet at once
- Subconsciously by not living life to its fullest
Thoughts on option #2
I see many people who have “settled” – simply by accepting various limitations for their lives. They justify it by the circumstances they are or were in.
- Some of us accept to live in dysfunctional family situations – temporarily or permanently.
- Some of us spend big portions of their lives watching TV – knowing that this is part of a passive, not an active lifestyle.
- Some of us simply stop taking care of ourselves – without without ever finding the strength to turn things around again.
- Some of us have dreams for their future and let others talk them out of it.
- Some people have tons of children and are stuck for life (I know this is a highly controversial subject).
- Some of us stop challenging themselves intellectually – knowing that their brain will loose lots of its power if it doesn’t get some exercise here or then.
- Some of us take the route of using drugs – in many cases to numb the pain of not being able to deal with real life. If life would be great it wouldn’t have to be numbed, right?
I am asking myself: Do things really have to be that way? How different would our world be if more people would break their chains and life their lives with less limitations?
One night in 1981 I listened to a tune called “Is it you?” on a German radio station. I scribbled down the name of the artist. Soon after that I went into a record store and was lucky to find the album. Rit by Lee Ritenour was the first record I ever bought. Who else in the world can claim that? I’d really like to get to know that person ;-)
This was the beginning of an addiction and a long standing love affair.
My addiction with records soon turned into full storm. We had a store in my hometown that could have served as the inspiration to Nick Hornby’s High Fidelity. I became part of the scene and spent countless hour in the store. My allowance was twenty Deutschmarks and records sold for 19.99 – go figure. I ended up buying over 700 of them. My dad and I were often racing to get a new recording first. And then we ended up fighting over who actually owned the record.
I have many moments of loneliness. First there are conscious times of loneliness – created by choice.
Taking trips by myself
The benefit of traveling alone is that I get to decide exactly what I want to do. I am able to make connections with strangers without any restrictions of others impatiently waiting for me. I am the master of my journey and don’t need to make any compromise. I even learned that the language barrier is not that much of a big deal. Besides German and English I speak very little French and Italian. I’ve traveled to countries like Hungary and Czechoslovakia (when it still existed as one country) by myself. time and my choices. I’ve also spend time in France by myself without really mastering the language.
I traveled to Dublin once and already made friends on the airplane. I never even got to leave the airport until midnight because we ended up in a bar.
I’d come home and had a story to share. The trips felt more intense than traveling with a group. I felt that I owned my memories.
- Our love affair has lasted since I began listening to music.
- It has always been my favorite band and always will be. Nothing in life is for certain but I don’t see that ever changing.
- They represent love, peace, hope and fun as opposed to aggression, violence and anger.
- Their two main song writers have written many of the most memorable songs in the world.
- They performed their last concert on a rooftop in London.
- The band stopped performing when I was 4 years old.
- They created a mania the world hadn’t seen before. Seeing videos of the crowds going wild still give me goosebumps.
- The band represents an era I am fascinated with on many levels.
- The band has never been involved in any nasty scandals. At least they were never made public.
- The band lost its chance to ever reunite in 1980.
- None of their members would be listed among the best musicians or singers of the world. Chemistry and the quality of their songs lead to their success.
These four boys will always stay in my heart. They have my world a better world. They provided me with happiness at times when I needed it. Their magic still works.
There is no need to even mention their name. You either know who they are or you don’t.
Thanks again for all the joy you brought into my life!
I never really liked the Rolling Stones. To me they are the anti-christ of “my” band. I strongly dislike music promoting aggression such as punk, heavy metal or many flavors of rap. My favorite kinds of music are filled with joy and happiness. Fortunately there is plenty of that around.
At the age of 14 my life took an unforeseen turn. I was standing at a red light. The next thing I remember was waking up in the hospital. Nobody really knew what was going on and I was diagnosed with a circulation problem related to puberty. Two weeks later I passed out again – this time in the presence of my shocked father. It didn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that I’d just had been hit with epilepsy. The diagnose was confirmed by a neurologist one day later.
We have to Yellow Labradors at home. They are named Hershey and Coco. Well, Coco’s official name is Coconut 2 – there were to many Coco’s registered already.
Here is a reality check:
- I need to vacuum the house twice as often – because of them
- They sleep on the couch unless I cover it up every night
- They carve 40 minutes out of each of my days – they need their walks
- Our neighbors give us the stink eye because of the commotion they cause when people walk by our property. A lot of people walk by, therefore there is a lot of commotion
- They eat pretty much everything they can get their hands on – stretching from dandelions to the really gross things like dead animals
- They fart like a storm – we spend a considerable amount of $$$ on room spray and scented oils
- They burp in peoples faces
- They stink, unless we give them a bath every three to four weeks which is a major ordeal
- They barf on the carpet – remember: They eat a ton of crap
- Taxes, doctor’s bills, food etc. add up
- They are on a clock – meaning I am on a clock as well
- Et cetera et cetera et cetera
So why do we even talk about us having dogs? Maybe these images provide some answers. I’m not always too sure about it;-)